TMI Personal Stuff

If your lover was turned on by forced feminization would you participate (giving or receiving)?

While I've never had a partner who was open about this with me, if they had been I would be okay with trying it out. I'm not a great Domme but I can play one on TV, and I'm open to what my partner wants to try. It's not something that I find particularly appealing just to think about, and I don't have any fantasies about it; my fantasies, at least recently, have been tending toward being submissive and I've never really found the idea of forcing a guy to act girly to be sexy. But again, if my partner was into it, I'd at least give it a try, particularly if there was some quid pro quo involved.

I think it would also matter what my partner was good at in bed. Like, if a guy was an amazing carpet-cleaner, I would totally make him my lipstick lesbian, but if he was lousy at shaking the bushes I might hesitate. Not that I wouldn't do it, but I'd probably get less out of it. Of course, that's assuming that the only time I'd get anything out of the situation would be during the situation. I have no experience, and maybe the sex is super good after you force feminize a guy. I imagine it depends on the guy.

All that said, I think I'd be much more open to the idea with another woman. Like, if she were more butch but secretly harbored a desire to be a bit submissive and femme, I could probably get behind that, as it were. It hasn't happened so I don't know if it's at all common.

Receiving... I'm reasonably femme and I don't know how it would work for me, but I can get off on being a subby slut sometimes, so sure, I'd try it for a partner who was interested, of any gender.

When you have sexual dreams or fantasies that are aggressive or cruel, does it worry you?

A little. I know that fantasy is fantasy, but delving into the darker corners of my psyche always worries me with what I might come up with. I pride myself on being fairly liberated and combating bigotry, but occasionally something super problematic turns my crank, and that's worrisome too. I guess I would happily work on it with a therapist but most of my fantasies stem from some aspect of reality and much of my reality is the sort of thing which therapists are legally required to disclose to the authorities.

Do you think the lure to live out sexual fantasies or have sex frequently is amplified by technology?

I think technology, along with pop culture, might make us assume that the amount of sex we're having is less than the norm when in fact it's not. Also, being able to satisfy a fetish, either through pornography or by finding a like-minded individual, is greatly simplified by technology. Hell, I remember back in the dawn of time when you were lucky to find porn at all, let alone porn of some niche interest. Finding a community of people who share your turn-ons has been made easier by technology too.

Describe your fantasy life in three words.

Nasty, brutish, and short.

No, only kidding, but I couldn't resist. Lately, I'd say bestial, fierce, and submissive.

If you were an ice-cream flavor, what would you be and why?

Bad pecan praline, because when you taste me you get the impression that there could have been more nuts in me, but the cream level is still okay.

What? You tell me what I should have said.

What are the best sexy skills you bring to a sexual relationship?

Mad oral skillz, yo. And actually I'm pretty good at riding a gal with a double dil, but that's practice practice practice.

What is the single largest problem causing you angst in your romantic relationship?

Money. It's always money.

What is the best part about being in a relationship with you?

I would love to be novel and interesting here, but I really think it might be the sex. I put out like a hooker on shoreleave and I flatter myself that I'm a pretty good fuck.

What is the biggest misconception that people have about you?

Might be a tie between, "She only ever thinks about sex," and, "She's not at all shy." I do think about sex a fair amount, I guess, but you only get the sexy parts of my thinking, so it seems like it's nothing but. And I'm super introverted and don't make friends easily. I know, I know. I don't seem like the type, but I totally am. You'd probably never know I was me if you met me.

When you look at old photos of yourself, do you like what you see?

No, because I don't like any photos of myself. Sorry, that's just the facts.

What was your biggest worry five years ago, do you still have that same worry or feel the same about it at this minute?

Money, and yes, always.

Do you have a positive or negative body image? What factors contribute to your self body image?

Negative, more now than before because I've not kept myself up in quarantine. Also... I'm going to be 40 in a shockingly short time, and thus I am ancient and no one will ever love me. The factors that contribute to this are pop culture endlessly spamming everyone with unattainable fitness and appearance goals, frankly. And my rational mind knows this, but humans ain't rational honey.

How confident are you as a person?

When I'm in a wheelhouse, reasonably confident, though imposter syndrome is a thing. Sexually, once we're to the point where we're past the formal introductions, I'm pretty confident in my abilities and in myself. I'm not confident at all in new situations though. Goes back to that shy thing again.

How creative a person are you? Why?

I flatter myself that some days I can be decently creative. I find myself in ruts far too often for me to say more than that. Why? Because my mom drank when she was pregnant with me? What the hell kind of question is that? I have no idea why I'm creative, any more than anyone else does.

My mother did not drink when she was pregnant with me. That was a joke. Don't drink when pregnant.

Do you resent things being uncertain and unpredictable? Why?

I'm not sure I resent it, but I don't know that I enjoy too much uncertainty. Unpredictability can be refreshing occasionally, and if it's safe unpredictability, I can dig it sometimes. Uncertainty is stressful though, so it really needs to be in a low-stress way. Like, if my friends decided to kidnap me and take me to a restaurant I'd never heard of, that's fun and exciting. Ordering food I've never had before is something I do constantly; in fact, I try not to order the same thing twice when there are options. But uncertainty about finances (yep, money again) or how people feel about me, or what's happening with a job or a relationship, or whether the world is going to come to an end, that's not so fun. That's more existential uncertainty.

By the same token, I'm not sure I'd want to know exactly how my life was going to play out. If predestination is a thing and someone invents a way to see the future, I'm not sure I'd participate, unless it was to see the winning lottery numbers or something.