TMI Tuesday

From the vaults:

Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure?

I'm a pleasure gal, I'm afraid. I have to really be in a very specific headspace to enjoy even a little pain, and that's generally only with subby Lexi, who only comes out to play with guys, usually. It's a shame that I don't enjoy pain more because the idea doesn't turn me off, but actually experiencing it usually throws a bucket of cold water on my libido.

Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?

I don't particularly like being tickled during sex unless that's part of the play. If I'm fooling around with someone or someones and we're playing and tickling and sex is also involved in that play, I can dig it. Mike used to tickle me sometimes, and Sheri knows every ticklish spot on my body. I do find that I've gotten less ticklish as I get older. I don't know if that's a usual thing or not.

Have you ever used feathers during sex?

Yes. Once fucked wearing a feather boa as part of a costume, and he used it to great effect on my pussy. It wasn't tickling, it was teasing. I don't really know how to describe the difference but there was one.

Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why?

I don't like or dislike it. Sometimes it's great, if my partner or partners know what they're doing. Simply slapping on a blindfold isn't what makes it sexy though. I remember one guy I was with who really wanted to blindfold me and tie me up, and while neither of those things are instant panty-wetters for me, he was super into the idea, so I let him talk me into it. And then all he did was standard, garden-variety stuff he could have done with my eyes open and my hands and feet free. I'm not saying it didn't work for him: it absolutely did work for him, and I'm okay with doing things for my partner rather than myself. But it wasn't that interesting for me.

What makes it interesting, blindfold-wise, is teasing and touching. Or bringing in another person as a surprise. Really, anything which allows me to concentrate my other senses on what's going on works too. And a blindfold does work to heighten the other senses. But if you don't do anything with it, it's just slightly heightened senses while fucking, which can be nice, but isn't immediately attractive to me.

Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?

We use warmth often enough. There's nothing like soaking the appropriate toy in hot water to add a bit of pleasure to using it. Extreme heat like flames, not so much, usually because of the pain angle.

Cold is a fun change of pace. The last time I remember doing anything with cold, I sucked on ice cubes before going down on Sveta and Zoe, just to get them used to it, then I used ice strategically. You can't just slap a cube on a girl's clit and make her go off. Or the nipples. Anything sensitive, you've got to tease around. Sveta was more into it than Zoe was, although Zoe got into being the user of the ice on me.

I remember one time, don't recall much about it but this, that ice was used on me and I was in the middle of an orgasm and my partner managed to drop me out of it by judicious application of ice, which sounds bad until you do it multiple times and it just builds the anticipation and then finally your partner puts their warm mouth on your lady parts and gives you an absolutely massive, toe-cramping, eyeball-rolling orgasm which lasts for what feels like hours. I'm not sure I'd do it again, not without that partner who knew what they were doing, but now I can't remember which partner it was, so I guess either I'll figure it out one day or I'll just never have that level of edging applied to me again.

Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?

So my parents never spanked us when we were kids. You shouldn't. It's really bad for children's development to hurt them. It sounds almost crazy when I say it like that.

Anyway, I don't have a spanking fetish because of preexisting trauma or because I want to fuck my parents. That said, occasionally when subby Lexi is out and in control (so to speak) I am totally fine with the idea of being spanked. And here I'm not referring to getting slapped on the ass while being fucked. That, I can sometimes get into, but I'm a wimp. No, I'm talking about taking me over your knee and slapping my ass repeatedly in a way which gets both of us excited.

As far as giving spankings, I'll do it if asked. It helps if there's roleplay going on or something like that, but if that floats someone's boat, I'm okay with it. I like to give spankings to girls more than to guys because girl butts are just better, sorry guys.

Do you have a safeword? Have you ever used it?

I've never done more than joke about a safeword. That's a bit too hardcore for me. If I were going to indulge in a couple of fantasies where the usual "stop it" wouldn't work, I'd come up with one, but as of yet I've never been in a situation where I felt the need of one and was given the opportunity to have one. Don't make my bad choices. Only indulge in safe play.