I mean, it's not really TMI because I have very few limits on sharing my sex life, as you all know. But I figure you didn't come here to read about my deep inner life, you came here for the sex, so I'm going to try to keep these TMI posts to a more sexy nature at least until I get requests or questions from someone other than a blog from 3 years ago.
Which animal listed below represents your true sexual self?
a. Chipmunk – cute and cuddly
b. Monkey – all about being mischievousness
c. Tiger – I’ve earned my stripes
I mean, I can be all of those things if you ask me nicely, but unless I'm feeling very subby that day, you're getting the tiger. I know what I'm about.
Your partner is in the mood for sexy fun and you are tired – what do you do?
Fortunately this doesn't happen very often because Sveta and I know each other's schedules and tend to respect sleep time. And, honestly, it's much more often me who wants to get frisky but Sveta is tired. I don't mean that in any way other than that, for her to catch me when I'm tired, she'd have to try to wake me up in the morning or something, and that's not happening, we both know that. I stay up later so if I'm in the mood in the evening, I'm more likely to run into her sleep time than the other way around. But I can honestly say that, when it happens, it's easy enough for either of us to take a rain check. No sense in wasting sexy time on someone who doesn't want it, even if they're willing to take one for the team.
In previous relationships, particularly with guys, I would most likely take one for the team. Not that I didn't consent, just, "Ok honey, just don't expect me to be too into it tonight, huh?" I don't mind being a hole to fill, and I'm pretty easy to get off so it doesn't usually require much from me for both of us to get ours in any case.
Which of these sexual descriptive labels closely matches you?
a. Dominant
b. Submissive
c. Top
d. Bottom
e. Switch
f. Kinkster
I'll be honest, I'm not sure what some of the finer distinctions here are. It's not my lifestyle so I'm not up on particulars. I'd say I tend toward submissive with guys, but that's often because that's what they like. I'm definitely a bit dominant with Sveta, but that's what we like, and it's not written in stone; if she's feeling like being the big dog, I'm proud of her and will let her fuck me any way she likes.
How do you and your loved one connect?
Sexually but also through humor. And we like to sing together sometimes. And we finish each others... sandwiches! And we do weird shit together. Not weird sexual shit, just random weird shit. We have fun.
Who in your life do you wish you’d met sooner?
I'd say Sveta but I'm already in trouble with ages and if I met her when she was any younger I'm not sure she would have been ready to meet me anyway. So that's out... Except in my fantasies. She knows all about those. That's why she has those panties.
How about the queer part of me. I wish I'd understood sooner that being queer was more than just liking guys and licking girls. I think I missed out on a lot of relationship stuff with other women because I always put them in the "friends with benefits" camp and not the "legitimate romantic partner" category. Hell, I almost missed out on Sveta. I could have kept pining for the unattainable guy and not met my soulmate. So I wish I'd met some of the people who've helped me be more "out" about it sooner, I guess. I don't know.
Have you ever won a medal for a sports activity? What sexual activity are you sure to win the gold?
I think I got a participation trophy the year I played soccer in grade school, something like that. I'm not good at sports. I don't hate them, but I'm not good at them.
If I were going to the Sexual Olympics though, I'd compete in either taking anal or giving head: mixed doubles. I may not be the greatest blowjob or the greatest pussy eater, but I think I'd do quite well if I had to be the best all-around athlete in oral. And I take anal really well, but I bet Sheri would beat me. Girl's got an ass that knows no limits. Maybe I'll stick to oral. I fuck well, and if there were some kind of decathlon for fucking, sucking, foreplay... I can't think of ten separate events, but if there were a decathlon to determine best all-around sexual athlete, I might hold my own there.
What is the most annoying thing to you during foreplay or sex?
During sex, phony noises. I know sometimes I've been faked, and I didn't know, and thus those noises weren't phony, but if you're faking it and I can tell, it just takes me out of it. Dirty talk if you're no good at it does the same thing. If you sound like porn, it'll probably bug me a little. It's okay; I know there's a lot of pressure to perform and maybe it worked with your last partner. I don't usually hold it against my partner, but I might giggle.
During foreplay with guys, and I count blowjobs as foreplay, grabbing my head and forcing things. If I beg you to fuck my slutty mouth, that's one thing, but if you don't trust that I know what I'm doing, I'm going to back the fuck up and politely tell you to mind your business while I mind mine.
During foreplay with gals, probably the grabbing thing too, although I have less of a problem with it if it's in the throes of passion. If I'm making you cum and you can't stop and don't want me to stop and you happen to grab my head to make sure I don't go anywhere, that's hot. But if we're just starting out and you get handsy, I'd prefer if you just tell me rather than pushing.
Basically, fake noises and grabbing when it's not necessary are the big nopes for me. They won't end the encounter but they'll make me come up for air. Anything worse is rape-level, and anything less is minor shit that I can deal with.
Tell us something you really wanted to do but let someone talk you out of when deep down you wanted to do it?
I've talked myself out of getting my ass fisted a couple of times. It's for good reason, but there's a part of me which really wants to try it. I might, one day. I don't know if I'll ever be ready. It's a big hurdle.
As for other people talking me out of things, I don't tend to be the one being talked out of things, oddly. I talk myself out of most stupid stuff, and the rest I do whether someone else thinks I should or not.
During sex are you more orgasm-centered or going for an all out enjoyable experience with connection?
It really depends on the partner. If I'm in it for myself, I'm all about the O, but if I want the connection I'm all about that. Sex is, mostly, better with the connection, even if it's connection with a one-night stand, but I'm not proud and I have had sex solely for one or both of us to cum. Sometimes it changes in mid-stream; I can be having a fine time, connection going well, and then something happens and I just want it over and done with. Or, conversely, I can be in it to win it, and then hey, my partner is nice and we're suddenly having a much better time than a random hookup in a closet.
When was the last time you sought to introduce new activities in the bedroom? What did you want to introduce? Did you and your lover do the new sexual activity?
Not new, but we've been doing a lot more ass play recently. We started because neither of us had had a cock up our butts in far too long, and then we were just enjoying it and hoping for anal, and then the world decided that, just kidding, maybe we should all go back to being careful, but we're still doing it. We like double dilling between our asses ass-to-ass with fingers. We've tried to get our anuses to touch but our butts just don't work like that, but we do enjoy the feeling of our cheeks rubbing and bumping.
I've been trying to work a little DP into Sveta's regimen. She's not a DP virgin but she's a novice, mostly because she wants two guys and that's harder to find. But I have fucked her silly with a strapon while she's got a fairly sizeable dil in her ass. She says she's not ready for me to fuck her ass with a dil in her pussy, not without more practice. Again, we were working on it because she was totally out of practice and it seemed like maybe, just maybe, we'd be able to capitalize on our efforts, but now... it's still fun to practice.
If you could choose your partner again, would you choose the same person?
Hell yes, and not just because she'll read this. Sveta is great for me. I hope I'm as good for her.
When it comes to discussing your sex life, who do you confide in more than anyone else?
I mean, Sveta and I discuss sex a lot, but if I'm talking about my total sex life, Mom and Dad hear a certain amount of it. Family, I guess, would be the simple way to answer. I talk about sex with Sheri plenty too, when I talk with her, but it's usually more on her side since she still manages to outdo everyone else I know.
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