Tight Like Prom Night

Another mini-episode.  Please ask questions.  Or something.  I don't know.  Is anyone even reading this?

This isn't a question, but rather a conversation I had with a friend made me ponder vaginal tightness.

As a lady interested in other ladies (as well as gentlemen, but that's beside the point) I get my hands on a fair number of lady parts.  I would like to stress, for the benefit of anyone who might see this while I'm running for political office (yeah, right) that this is entirely consensual (and that's all you'll hear from me about politics).

But I know there's been a fascination among men about "tightness" which has probably been going on for as long as there were virgins but which has been coming to the forefront lately, probably because of porn and unrealistic depictions of sex and women in mainstream culture.  If it's not "thigh-gap" it's "tight pussy."

Now, I don't possess a cock, so I can't speak for that, but as far as I'm concerned, while there is a bit of a thrill which comes from sliding a finger or two into a nice tight pussy, for the most part, in my interactions with the vagina, tightness doesn't really make much of a difference.

I think that most of what people mistake for "tightness" is actually "lack of foreplay."  Guys, if your lady is so tight that it takes force to penetrate her, you're hurting her and you're doing sex wrong.  A pussy should be able to accommodate a gamut of penises from the small to the large without much effort, provided they've been warmed up first.  The vagina is elastic, and most of them, when they're not prepared, are too tight.  Too tight isn't sexy, it's unpleasant.

Or if you'd like to look at it another way, if a lady is "too tight" for your monster hog, that's like trying to stick a pencil up your urethra.  Sounding might feel great, but you don't want it to be "too tight."

I imagine it stems from both a desire for the virginal and from a desire to think that your cock is massive.  Guess what?  Virgins aren't any tighter than anyone else.  Being a slut doesn't stretch your pussy out.  "Too tight," is just "unprepared," which many virgins are because first times tend to be nervous, speedy, rough, or all three.  They absolutely do not have to be.  First times can be wonderful.  Mine was, but that's because it was loving, slow, and while there were some nerves, there was plenty of prep.

Now, for the ladies, "too tight" isn't pleasant.  Taking something which is too big, I mean really too big, not just big enough to make you think, "Wow, that's going to be pretty big," is painful.  And the thing is, if everything's always "too tight" even with plenty of gentle, loving prep (read: he ate you out for an hour, you used a bucket of lube, and still he's not able to work his way in), that's a medical issue.  So aspiring to "tightness" isn't necessarily a thing one should do.

That said, some people want to tighten things up a little.  Not "too tight" but just maybe a little.  And that's fine.  But the more I read, the more I become convinced that there's very little you can do.  Sure, you can do your kegels and so forth, but abstaining from sex isn't going to make you tighter.  And most women don't need to be tighter.  Pussies are all different and they're all wonderful, and if you've got a guy who's complaining that you're not tight enough, chances are he might not be the guy for you.  I understand that childbirth can affect things, but sex will not make you loose and flappy.

Arousal makes the lady parts more elastic (it has to because the lady parts are pretty shallow and tight without it) but it also makes them swell up, so proper foreplay can help make things more pleasant for everyone.  And kegels... well, doctors now seem to be on the fence about them, but even if you do them, it's not going to make your pussy shrink.  You don't want it to.

Enough of a PSA, I think.

I have had "tight" and "not so tight" but I've never had "pencil down a well."  I don't have the requisite pencil, so maybe that's just me.  Ladies, if your man is complaining about tightness and being a jerk about it, find yourself a nice lady friend because she's unlikely to care.  I certainly don't.  And "tight" doesn't necessarily mean capacity either.  I've been with women who were quite snug, but who could take a baseball bat.  Just not first thing in the morning with no foreplay and no lube.  Everyone's tight without prep.  Guys, try jamming something up your ass without lube and see how tight that is.

Sorry, that was nasty.  I'm sure there are exceptions and that not all guys and so forth.  Just please, foreplay.  Foreplay.  Foreplay.