Wednesday, January 12, 2022

TMI Tuesday

You have started your own sex themed business. What is the name of your business? What is your specialty service or product? BONUS: In one or two sentences, what is your business’s slogan or motto?

I think I could sell sex toys and solutions, maybe with some advice thrown in. I've tried the various sex-work options and I don't think they're for me, but I could sell people toys and lube and so forth. I don't think I'd be much good at running the business but I might be good at working the counter. I don't get embarrassed talking about sex stuff.

I could also be a sex therapist, I think. Can I combine the two businesses? I'll call it Tea&A&Sympathy and I'll sell bespoke sex toys supplied by ethical producers, porn produced by same, maybe tea in keeping with the name, and I'll offer counseling.

Our motto will be "We're not satisfied until you're satisfied." I feel like I need to be more covert in my naming of the business. I don't know. There's a reason I'm not an entrepreneuse. Yes, that's a word. Shut up spellchecker.

What is eroticism for you?

Eroticism is sensual, not just sexual. It needs to appeal to the senses as well as a libido. Immediate penetration is sexual; an extended make-out with clothes being slowly removed, maybe with underwear staying on, is erotic. A naked woman is attractive, to me, but a woman wearing lingerie which shows her off is erotic. I don't write erotica, I write smut. Well, most of the time. Occasionally I stray into erotica.

You are invited to a kink party, will you go?

Depends on the kink. There are some I'd probably go even if I wasn't that into it, some I'd be all too willing to go, and a few where I'd have too many reservations to enjoy myself so I wouldn't go.

Your lover has tied your naked body down. What do you want to happen next?
a. You get tickled mercilessly
b. You are covered in whip cream and people lick the cream entirely from your naked body
c. Bind, blind, and tease your erogenous zones with an ice cube, feather, candle wax, tongue, etc.
d. A sex toy is used to penetrate you to orgasm

B, followed by D. I don't find tickling to be particularly arousing (it can be erotic) and while being blindfolded can be a real wake-up call to the other senses, I'm not really into pain either. Maybe I'll make my own option and go with the whipped cream while blindfolded, then having my erogenous zones teased but not tickled, followed by release after I can't take any more. This is giving me ideas.

In your sex life, do you go along with whatever your partner wants and needs or when necessary do you handle things to make sure you have thrilling sex?

I tend to be in the driver's seat with Sveta because she's much more sub than I am with women and she has less experience so she enjoys whatever I bring to the table. That said, if she wants something, she gets it. I'm not saying I spoil her, but she doesn't express her desires that often (which she insists is not because she doesn't have them but because I meet them without having to be asked) so if she does, she gets what she wants.

As an aside, I hope this question isn't asking whether I would put my own needs first in order to have thrilling sex, because unless you've got a kink, selfish sex will never be as thrilling as sex which meets both (or all) partners' needs. I'm a broken record about this, I know, but it shouldn't be a "my needs versus their needs" situation. Sex is a partnership.

That said, I have put my own needs first on plenty of occasions. I'm not perfect. I don't do that with people I love, but with others I can be as selfish as the best of them. It's just never going to be as thrilling.

When is the last time you purchased a sex toy? What did you buy? Was it purchased online or at a store?

Sveta and I, as I mentioned in the post about what we did over the Quarantimes (which aren't really over but you know what I mean) purchased a double dil online because our old one has seen a lot of use and was beginning to get floppy.

Back in the day, when I had a fairly popular and well-visited blog, I did get a couple of offers from companies asking for reviews of sex toys, and there was a part of me which was always a little sad that I had to turn them down because I can't give out my address. While we were locked down completely, I could totally have turned this blog into a sex toy review site. But it's not back in the day and I still can't give out my address. 

I feel guilty that we didn't use brick and mortar to get our new double-headed friend. But brick and mortar wasn't an option at that point. Hopefully the sex toy gods will forgive me.

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